What Should Birth Mothers Know About Adoption?
A planned pregnancy can be a joyous event, but many women find unplanned pregnancies stressful. If you're not ready for a child, pregnancy can be a source of fear and uncertainty. Fortunately, there are healthy options available for you and your unborn child. Adoption agencies place babies with loving couples who want to grow their families. Here are four things that birth mothers should know when they're considering placing their baby for adoption:
1. There is no reason to feel guilty
If you're thinking about putting your baby up for adoption, you may feel guilty. Many women struggle with feelings of inadequacy. You may feel like you're selfish or a bad mother. However, placing your baby for adoption is an act that requires great strength and courage. You're demonstrating love for your child by giving them a great start in life. You don't need to feel guilty for deciding that adoption is the right choice for you.
2. Emotional support is vital during this time
It's important to be sure of your decision before placing your baby for adoption. However, even if you're confident in your decision, you may struggle with negative feelings. Many birth mothers experience feelings of grief or loss during the adoption process. Reach out to people you trust for emotional support. Your partner can be a source of strength during this time. Some women also reach out to friends and family members for support. You may also want to consider seeking professional counseling. A therapist who specializes in adoption issues can help you by talking through your feelings with you.
3. Adoption agencies encourage birth mothers to participate in the family selection process
As a birth mother, you will have the opportunity to help the adoption agency select a family for your child. Participating in the process can give you a feeling of control. You can choose a family whose values you appreciate, so you can rest easy knowing that your child is being raised well. You don't have to participate in the selection process, but some birth mothers find that it gives them a sense of peace.
4. Open adoption is an option
Finally, remember that an open adoption is an option that is available to you. Open adoptions allow children and birth parents to remain in contact. If you'd like to be a presence in your child's life as they grow, talk to your adoption agency about your desire for an open adoption.
To learn more about how to place your baby for adoption, talk to an adoption agency in your area.